I'm glad your holiday was nice. It seems that we can manage to get through them and have a good time despite the speed bumps we hit (like your H's inability to answer phone and/or arrange to pick up your S).
His comments about the phone and getting agitated....I think it all has to do with the things you mention below about things that haven't gone right with him. He needs someone to be agitated with still. That person is you. My sister's XH I found out on Thanksgiving has spewed on her recently. Their D was final in June and she got spewed on last week because Sis changed the house locks (wanted to change from brass door handles to silver - convenient to do it then) and informed XH that she wasn't giving him a key. But he blew a nut over all sorts of stuff that had nothing to do with the key. It happens and continues to show that your STBX still has feelings for you.
Quote: So, now that's four things that have not worked out as planned for him: his attempt to run his own business failed, he has to move back into Joe's soon so his attempt to live on his own failed...and he lost his fancy cell phone and his truck took a dump.
I guess karma does work, but I'd sure like to see his R with the OW start to fall apart soon. It seems like the universe is telling him something. Is he listening? Somehow, I doubt it.
These 4 things I am sure he has taken notice of. Whether he "gets it" or not or figures out the direction his life is headed, only time will tell. If the R with the OW falls apart, unless you hear from someone else - you will probably be the last to know. He doesn't want to be wrong and certainly doesn't want you to be right. At some point, perhaps OW will become target for blame of the things that didn't go right in his life. You said before that he was "pressured" by OW to get the D. It will happen sooner or later...
Oh, and you listed 4 things that have happened badly in his life. There are really 5. He has lost a very special person - an awesome wife, mother, and friend in you. That affects him as well big time - he just won't admit it. His look at those flowers and look away probably reminded him of the beautiful flower - you - that he has walked away from.
