Quote: I do sometimes grab onto the fact that I know he's not this "great catch," but then again...he's already got someone and I certainly don't. And she left her H to be with him. She left a guy with a stable job and a good income to be with my xH, someone who hasn't held a steady job EVER and could never really provide for us. I just don't get it. I know why I love and want him, but what does she see?
I know this is hard to see right now, but they are in the "honeymoon" phase of their relationship. Everything seems great and she's probably being overly nice to the kids to be on his good side.
What does she see in your husband? This is a woman with PROBLEMS and she's trying to fix them with your husband. They are probably building each others egos right now and it's making them feel really special. It will be interesting to see just how long that lasts. I have doubts that your husband will miraculously change into a different person overnight with this woman. I think over time his negative qualities will creep in.
Even though your husband "has someone" and you don't that doesn't detract one but from you being worthwhile. You are soooo much more worthwhile!!!!! Heck, he has a woman who has left at least one husband, give her time and she will probably leave the next one too.
You don't "have someone" right now--- and may not for awhile-- because you're going to find the "right" guy (also YOU don't have affairs while you're married!!!). Someone with quality (good morals, steady job, great parent or parent potential, attractive, etc...).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
