Quote: Quote: iluv2teach wrote: If H just left you a message saying he missed all of you. I don't think that the R is as good as you are imagining.
I am sorry, I read so many posts I must have gotten you mixed up with someone else. As for the crap he says about his OW. It is just new R crap. He probably said the same about you when your R was new.
Quote: I know you're right. When I look back, it wasn't great. There were lots of issues. But I still love him, and I felt like things were improving over the last 5 years. I guess I was wrong.
Anyhow, I do sometimes grab onto the fact that I know he's not this "great catch," but then again...he's already got someone and I certainly don't. And she left her H to be with him. She left a guy with a stable job and a good income to be with my xH, someone who hasn't held a steady job EVER and could never really provide for us. I just don't get it. I know why I love and want him, but what does she see? I guess I may never know.
What hurts a lot is this feeling that he's giving her everything that I wanted him to give to me -- loyalty, commitment, compassion, etc. He's said he is going to be a better man because of her and that just makes me feel like crap. Why couldn't he be a better man for m
It sounds like H is a bit of a bad boy and many of us have gotten involved in R that we know wouldn't lead to anything substantial. It sounds like OW is going through a bit of a crisis herself. When she awakes from her fog, she is going to have given up a truly good man for one that she will never be able to trust and she doesn't have the history or a child with him. Hold onto that and when the wonderful loving man comes by that will hold you in the high esteem that you deserve. He will be living in the shambles of his life he deserves. It is Karma. People who hurt people cannot go one forever and not get some of it in return.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
