Quote: found out that my landlady is the OW's very good (best?) friend.
One thing you have to remember is that your landlady is OW's friend. She is going to try to present her friend in the best light possible. Although, I can't see how breaking up two marriages can be presented in any kind of good light.
If H just left you a message saying he missed all of you. I don't think that the R is as good as you are imagining. Even if your divorce is final that doesn't mean there is no hope. Yes, you will have to live your life as if it is over. But that doesn't mean you can't work on your R if the opportunity arises. I do know of couples that have reconciled and remarried.
What bothers me the most is that even in my small community and areas near here there seems to be an epidemic of divorces between couples that have been married a long time. What has happened to the sanctity of marriage?
I really miss my H during the holdays. Last year, he was not living with us but he had Thanksgiving dinner with us and spent Christmas with us, too.
This year our D will go to trial on the 19th of December. H will not be having dinner with us on Thanksgiving and since the D will probably be final by Christmas, I don't think he will be here for Christmas either.
Just take care of yourself as much as possible and know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many of us on this site.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
