Quote: In one way, I hope my WAW doesn't pursue the D. On the other, if she only comes back out of guilt, shame, or fear, then I'd rather she be gone.
Now here's the difficult thing with this.... if they do come back it's impossible to know exactly why. Yes, it's a choise and they can choose to keep going even if/when things don't work out with the OP, but when they come back there is inevitably some guilt, shame, fear of losing something they were familiar with. The interesting thing with this last one is both WAS and LBS both generally deal with the fear of losing something familiar.
When you think about it there's a little selfishness on all levels. They selfishly want to follow some dream relationship that feeds something in them and we selfishly want that to fail in some way.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
