Thanks for the encouragement. I hope one day we will be sharing our success stories instead of our frustrations and sorrow. But for now we must be patient.
If your WAH is so intent on being with the OW, then perhaps a quick D is better for you. Get him in there so he sees that the gilded lily isn't quite as great as she appears.
I'm torn a bit on this issue as well. In one way, I hope my WAW doesn't pursue the D. On the other, if she only comes back out of guilt, shame, or fear, then I'd rather she be gone. While I want her back, the only way it will be a long term success is if she understands and makes a conscious decision for me/us...not a reaction to emotion (which is what got us here in the first place). In that scenario, I wonder if a D is the only way, at this point, to get her out there to discover this.
In the meantime, I'm LRTing and GALing my heart out (or at least to the best of my ability).
Like the OW in your sitch, the OM in mine was M with 2 or 3 kids. So two marriages went down the tubes in my case as well. I cannot fathom how anyone could look at such a situation and consider it a good foundation for building anything...let alone a relationship/marriage.
