Quote: i am sure he is having some emotion to this divorce and the only person he can show this emotion to is you. He may want to show it meanly or nicely, who knows. But he divorced you and right now is a good learning lesson for him to know he has to do this one on his own.
I guess it's hard for me to imagine that he's having any sort of emotion at all -- other than joy and relief that it's finally over.
Quote: Anyway...how is his relationship with your son? Does he have set days he sees him and does he provide a fixed monthly amount in support? Just curious
He provides a fixed amount each month and he sees S4 twice a month -- every other weekend, basically. I've told him I'm open to him seeing him more, if he finds the time. He's stated that he's "very busy" and can't see him more than what is outlined in the paperwork. He went a whole month recently without seeing him -- and then because S4 was sick, he didn't really get to spend much time with him on his weekend. So, the plan was that he would spend today/tonight with S4. He never called to make arrangements, so he never did see him. Luckily, I didn't tell S4 about it so his hopes were not dashed.
Quote: You seem to be doing well by your post.
Yea, I guess I'm doing okay. I had a bit of a hard day today. I kept having crying fits on and off throughout the day, as it hit me that I am no longer his wife. 12 years is a long time to spend with someone and it's hard to let go. I wonder if he ever thinks of me fondly or misses me. I guess it's possible, but he'll not share that with me. His feelings for the OW have overshadowed any that he might have for me.
