My name is Liz and I'm new to this section of the board. I've been over in Separated (and a little bit in MLC) for the last few months. At the bottom of this post will be a list of all of my threads, in case you ever want to go back and look at what I went through.
Basics: I"m 39, my xH is 32. We have three kids (SS14, D13, S4). My daughter is not his biologically but he raised her since she was an infant. We had been together 12 years, married for 9. He dropped the initial bomb on May 21. In June, he said he was "on the fence" and needed "space". We continued to sleep together throughout the entire separation. In September, he dropped the second bomb, but then proceeded to show a little bit of indecision later in the month. On November 4th, he dropped the final bomb and said that he's in love with OW and wanted the D for sure.
I signed the papers on November 14 and our D will be final by next week. New Mexico has no waiting period. I could have delayed it a bit by making him serve me and all of that, but I decided that it was a total 180 for me to just let him go. There's nothing I can do to stop the D, I realize that now.
So, here I am, divorced (essentially). Am I done DBing? I guess not. I love my xH and although I'm not waiting for him, I am keeping my heart open for the time being. We'll see what happens. The OW pushed him into the D (she left her H for my H), so I think this will blow up in his face eventually.
Here are my threads, beginning with the one in MLC. After that, they're all in Separated and are ordered from most recent to least recent.
