Just a quick reply to say that the lessons of the book I mentioned have nothing to do with your being batty. It's about patterns of behavior that may have been survivor mechanisms at one time that became patterns. And especially it tells the lesson about control, that none of us can control another and that letting go is the only way to really exist.
An MLC experience is probably the worst emotional experience anyone in the USA could go through and I would never wish it on my worst enemy and reading a book does not do the trick. It takes a lot of time, and honestly I was one of the most painful messes on this board for a very long time. And healing, whether you get back together or not, is a process.
I don't expect that anyone here would be able to detach just like that, the self help books that tell you do this or that and you will feel better are jokes. It does not work that way under these circumstances. I was emotionally sick for a long time.
Be very kind to yourself, trust yourself, find your patience and faith, and you will find your way. Wonder
