What happened to u was one of my nightmare ‘what ifs’.
It seems to me that when that type of ‘catastrophe’ occurs, all the personal emotional ‘choices’ or possibilities we may be considering are taken away, because perhaps, morally speaking, all other considerations should take 2nd place to the requirements of nurturing new life.
I have a good friend whom I have known for about fifteen years. He had been with his wife for about 20yrs. Some little while ago he was enticed (by his description) into an affair with a work colleague.
His ow deliberately (in my opinion) contacted him at home when his wife was there, resulting in their separation. He told me he was working hard toward reconciliation with his wife and was on the point of going back to her, when ow announced she was pregnant.
As a result he is now stuck in no mans land, lives alone but has 2 families to support, feels he was trapped by the ow, but is determined to maintain his responsibilities to their child. This is in fact a barrier to his reconciling with his wife, who will not accept ow and child as part of her life. ow is constantly badgering him to be a 'family' w/her.
Some might say he got what he deserved, but I feel his fate is to be pitied. he made some poor choices that he will pay for for the rest of his life, as will his wife.
I am doing my best, to prepare myself to meet with whatever comes at me from this mess.
I’m just trying to work out what that might be, so I have at least a few answers ready.
