I have been with you a long time and it's nice to see you doing better...but not as nice to see you still struggling with the same issues YOU had from day one of reconciliation. Like the others have said, this part is 100% on you. Choose to feel better. Choose to not need her to validate you. You are special because of who you are, independant of what she thinks of you.
Sure, it's nice to hear all the validating things from her, hell, I want them from my W too, but you HAVE to keep up the DBing and realize that once again you are trying to make her responsible for your happiness. You are trying to substitute her view of you for your self-esteem.
You were and ARE a good man. Believe in yourself and believe in what your marraige can become.
