Struggling..

[toughlover]

Rather than create drama, just kind of let go and go with things for awhile. Maintain space, focus on self and healthy things that heal....

That's really a better way to put it, root. More practical. Thanks.

I was a lifeguard in my younger days, so I'm prone to wax philosophical about swimming

But I think you're right, root. You've got to be an individual first. It's very difficult, if not impossible, for two people drowning to save each other. Just as difficult for one to try and save the other. The panic of one usually wears the other one out. Probably the most intensive part of my lifeguard training was learning how to save someone without letting them drown you.

So unless there's some driftwood or a raft or something, we pretty much have to be able to make it to shore on our own first. Then work together to avoid getting into troubled waters again. Hmmm.

I'll bet there's a lesson there, somewhere.