Yeah, what cat said. And remember, we're all still growing and changing, and have the opportunity to learn and teach what real love really is. You can't go through something like this with any degree of integrity and honesty and not be changed by it...you don't really have a choice in that too much and by this stage of the game you've already started the process...so your choice is in how you use it, whether you're going to allow the process to make you better or worse.
It's kind of like being caught in an undertow. If you struggle too hard while it's pulling you out to sea, you'll drown from fatigue. If you go with the flow for a while, then let the tide carry you back in so that you can simply keep your head above water and slowly make your way back to shore, you'll be fine.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
