Today is a new day!!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Well, at least some things that needed to be talked about were.. like the kids.

I do pray that she is not contemplating another M right now. I wonder if she has any real friends that could encourage her to do the right things? Or are you the only one? It's hard for you to encourage her because she'll probably just see it as pressure or whatever.

I almost wonder if it would be good to talk to her in the future if she was contemplating an M and to talk to her only like a friend and tell her that your not saying these things because you want her back. You could say that you know she doesn't want you back, but you are concerned for her as a friend. After going thru this trial, you have really opened your eyes. You understand that whatever problems you guys had in your M is only going to continue into any other R's you both have. And because you pushed her out of your life (in a way, she was wrong too of course, but we need to validate her foremost) and she fled to someone else, you want the best for her, and hope that she has had a chance to really understand herself in order for her to find the right person.

I don't know. She'd probably take that bad too. I'm sorry, I'm not much help here.

Of course, you just keep taking care of yourself. We can't change our spouses, they have to figure that out for themselves, some later than others. And for some, it's too late. I hope that your wife is not one of those.

Keep building yourself, keep being a great father, they are most important, and keep praying.