Quit trying to pick a gift that will bring W back. There is no such gift. A gift will not save your M, but it can easily crowd your W and push her away.
Most of the one's you are thinking of are romantic, intimate, etc... Just the kind of thing she DOES NOT WANT from you. They are pushy, pressuring, and worse, all about YOU and what YOU want her to think feel about YOU. And, when it isn't about you, you seem to be making it about OM. Don't give a gift if you can't do so without strings attached.
A nice sweet gift is a thoughtful gift that is about the other person. It should be based on what your W would like and enjoy, and that is it. If you are agonizing about the "meaning" of the gift, then cross it off the list. So, for instance, CDs and books are likely OUT because you will be tempted to buy a "meaningful" one for her. A massage (for one) might be nice. Gift certificates for Pizza for when she doesn't want to cook migh be nice. Anyway, something that is ONLY about her and what will enhance her life.
