It all sounds really cool, but just be careful. In regards to the trip, yes, it is good for you to show her that you are listening now, but you also need to make sure your not showing her that your expecting something from her.

I'm not saying that that is what you are doing, but she will take it as such anyways. Remember, she has already said that she thinks you've been "overdoing" it, therefore she can't believe these changes are real. and that she wants subtle and sweet, not overbearing.

So, I'm not really sure what you had in mind about the trip thing. You were going to give her brochures or something and the invitation to go with you in the future if she wanted to? IMHO I'm thinking it is too soon to offer that kind of an invitation if that's what you were thinking of doing. If she weren't living with the OM, then I would think differently, but unfortunately, she is.

I wish I had some really good info for you, but I feel that I am at a loss on this one.

Remember to treat her as a friend right now. That's what my DB coach told me when I asked him how do I behave around my H.


Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."