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DON'T SAY EITHER OF THOSE THINGS. Sorry for yelling.

I'm not an expert on the DB thing, but I'm pretty darn sure that would be the opposite of DBing.

If you mention you can afford the bills if she stayed with you, that would totally be pressuring her. I almost guarantee that she would definitely not do it, and that's totally not want you want. IMHO you should show her your sympathy, but nothing more. Plus, we want her to want YOU back for YOU, not your money.

Also, I would probably not mention the dream thing either. If she brings it up again, you could mention that you felt inclined to do a little research since the dream had to do with you using violence against her and you could tell her where you found the information. I don't know that I would tell her personally what it said, because most of the time, they will not really "listen" to what we have to say when it is regarding their "sanity" or their problems, or their "sin". So I really don't think it would do any good. But letting her know that you were curious about it since it had to do with you and it troubled her, you thought you could give her some resources about it if she was interested. That way she could read the stuff herself.

I think the only good that would come of it would be that she might be shocked that you cared about it enough to research it. I don't know.

Anyone else want to tell him not to say anything about the bills??????? I need someone to back me up.

I'm glad you asked, this is a great place to go, believe me!!!! I'm sure you know too!

Even though she said she didn't want to be with you, I think it is a good sign that she wanted you physically, I'm assuming. There is passion still there, and that's really good. She just needs to see that she can also have security, patience, compassion, and love. This will take a lot of time, but you can do it.