Thank you so much for your constant attention to my sitch..you and the success you've had make me want to keep fighting...thank you so much.
Quote: I'd really like to know what you said in response to her comment, and why she even said that in the first place.
I told her that I understand why she feels that way. I asked her if she doesn't trust me cause she thinks I'd stray (If you remember that was an issue before we were married). I asked her if the trust is violence related(again go back to the beginning of the sitch). She said a little of both. I told her that I am different, pointed out a few things that I've listened to and adjusted...like buying her sunflowers and daisies(her favorites) rather than roses(mine). In the end I told her that she can trust me, I've told her how I feel and what I want but she is the one that has to take a step in that direction.
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I would suggest if this ever comes up again, or maybe write her a letter (like I did) and mention the following. I totally understand why you are skeptical of my behavior. i would be too if I were in your shoes. However, I have learned that I have not been the man/husband that God has called me to be, and I am so excited about the change that He is making in my life and I plan for this to be a lifelong change for me
I have told her this in a bit different language. I'm not much of a religious person so I didn't throw GOd in there, but I have told her that I want a chance to prove I'm the man I promised her I would be when we got married. That I just wanted one chance to live up to that promise. And I have told her that I understand why she is skeptical, and she absolutely has a right to feel that way.
Quote: Now YOU can be that OM in her life, and you just continue to be that fun and compassionate man that she missed out all those years.
I was kind feeling like the OM for a bit until she had to start playing nurse maid to him.
The last couple days have been a little tuff for me cause I had gotten used to talking to her during my breaks at school, but with him home she hasn't bothered to call. I am not gonna be the one who gives in here, I'm just gonna occupy myself until she calls me. Shouldn't be a problem..between school and coaching I have plenty to do during the week and weekends with the kids so I guess we'll see how long this takes.
I'm really hoping to start seeing some movement in the right direction...I've been at this for over six months. But at the same time I realize it could be that much longer or more.........
