Quote: I'm not so sure that buying her a car was the right thing to do, however, I think that if you make it like your "loaning" it to her, or that when she has the means, she can pay you back. That way she will think, maybe you aren't reading so much into how she acts with you. And you are also making her responsible for her own actions.
The car thing is definately just a means of helping her not giving her a gift. She is fully aware that she needs to repay me. I asked her if I typed something up (kind of a lein) if she would sign it and she said she would. So she knows it's not a hand out. Plus I'm hoping it gives me an opportunity to redeem myself a bit. If you remember I had her car repoed cause I quit paying for it back in spring...she still dwells on that a bit. So hopefully this takes away some of that pain.
Quote: Also, please make sure your not the one contacting her. Let her do that for the most part. You want it to be her to make this decision and you don't want any pressure on her whatsoever.
For the most part she is the one that calls me first. there are days that I could set a clock by it. I have noticed that she never calls me when he's around (he's got a bit of a jealousy thing going according to her). But there are days when I do call her, I'm really trying to keep it business though.
Quote: Remember to not overdo the compliments or gifts, or whatever, because it will seem contrived and not sincere.
This is a tough one. I know I could over due it but at the same time one of her problems with our old R is that I never noticed when she looked good and that I never complimented her. I just want her to know that I do think she is beautiful. But I will keep an eye on it...try to control it a bit.
