How did you get WAH to admit to affair??

[BluePoet]

I had asked him several times in the past months if he was talking to anyone at work. To which he said "no". When the EA when physical, I started having nightmares and over-reacting to a lot of things suddenly. My intuition was trying to tell me something.

A month ago yesterday, I woke in the middle of the night with another nightmare. H sat up and comforted me, which is rather unusual for him to be sleeping that lightly at that time of night. I talked about the nightmare and then the subject of infidelity came up (in the dream, a female was breaking into my home and wouldn't leave when told). I asked him again if he'd been with anyone else and I can't remember if he went silent or said something like "I can't say". But that was it. The nightmare I never woke up from.

For 29+ years he had been faithful to me, and I was his first and only. Not anymore. I believe he has had sex with her since then as well, but he won't say; which is why I think so.

BluePoet
(feeling blue today but trying to be productive)