How did you get WAH to admit to affair??

[nodivorceplease]

Hello!

I normally post in Separated or MLC but this is my first post here. I seriously suspect that my H may be involved with another woman but he swears that is not the case. My intuition tells me something is not right. Does anyone have any suggestions for how to get the truth out of him????

Shelly

[cat03]

sadly I snooped, which made him very angry, he was back w/me by then. During his A some things didnt add up, but I never suspect it, he was just not the kind who'd so such a thing (HA!)
Even after I found out I gave him a chance to admit it, he wouldn't, until I brought more evidence.

[BluePoet]

I had asked him several times in the past months if he was talking to anyone at work. To which he said "no". When the EA when physical, I started having nightmares and over-reacting to a lot of things suddenly. My intuition was trying to tell me something.

A month ago yesterday, I woke in the middle of the night with another nightmare. H sat up and comforted me, which is rather unusual for him to be sleeping that lightly at that time of night. I talked about the nightmare and then the subject of infidelity came up (in the dream, a female was breaking into my home and wouldn't leave when told). I asked him again if he'd been with anyone else and I can't remember if he went silent or said something like "I can't say". But that was it. The nightmare I never woke up from.

For 29+ years he had been faithful to me, and I was his first and only. Not anymore. I believe he has had sex with her since then as well, but he won't say; which is why I think so.

BluePoet
(feeling blue today but trying to be productive)