Am reading excellent book about "us" but instead of calling us "dumpees" the author refers to it as "CUT LOOSE" and it is very detailed in its' study of MLC and WASs' . Lots of research in it, but many chapters with personal stories of survival, some reconciliations, and lots of growth. Helps me "get" things more. And PWS, my H is definitely coming out of the tunnel towards family/and our M. He has been gone for 18 months, visiting monthly....long story. But wanted to give you that time line. I started DBing one year ago. Some results were small but almost immediate. Detaching, truly, is what I did. I have NO idea whether that changed H, or other things beyond the scope of this note, but detaching helped ME.
Time wise, my Point is, you have a ways to go, even if things work out really well. Sorry to say that, but the good news is that it's way too early to give up hope.
The book discusses men's MLCs and their reasons, fears, etc. Helped me remember that this is NOT about me much. Mostly about them and they don't even know that sometimes..... either way, all that you've heard about GAL is true, no matter what choices you make, you must G:A L to achieve any of them. Good luck, God Bless, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
