ow thread locked........MLC Collateral damage

[Valentine]

PWS,

I tend to agree with BND and Always,

Success is the best revenge.

ABSOLUTELY! This is time for YOU doll! This is where you get to indulgent about you for a change. I too have no children and I am thankful that I had my pity parties that didn't involve anyone else...BUT, you cannot stay that way forever...your sitch won't be this way forever either, hon. Everything changes...so now is your opportunity to dust off those dreams and things you set aside for the good of your marriage, etc...and try on the new and improved PWS suit!

I think you need to indulge yourself a little bit and give yourself permission to be human. I can see your pain in all the words you write and I hope it is a catharsis for you...

I think you should write that letter to your H and let it ALL OUT. All your anger, frustration, and disappointment. Then let it go...this will be a process of course but we are all human and not stepford wives.

In time, you will see the change in you...just as many of us have seen and experienced the changes in ourselves. I thought that I would die when I found out about my H's PA. We had a "perfect" life, I thought. Now I realize how I lived in a rose colored world. so,I have learned to grow and be the Vali I used to be...independent and sassy!

Hang in there, sweets, we're here for you to help you along this perilous journey...

Hugs,
Vali