pws - This is in reponse to your post on ACJ's thread: sadly we don't have a crystal ball on this board, to tell us how long our h will be like this, and if they will ever come out of it. Most do come out of it [and I have a suspicion that the ones that don't are very damaged indeed, and may well have been exhibiting signs of that damage prior to the MLC, but I'm not sure, and certainly hope I haven't hurt anyone's feelings by saying this]
However, it takes a LONG time. you get the occasional posting of early reconciliation, but for full blown MLC - well 2 years plus post bomb seems standard. If they start coming out of replay/depression/withdrawal in under 18 months that is a shortish MLC.
You really do have to get on with your life. Until you do that you will be terribly unhappy. You will still be unhappy from time to time when you have got on with your life. This is normal. What has happened to all of us is AWFUL, but we can't undo it and go back. Until we realise that, let go and start moving forward again we will be locked in misery, and frankly not very attractive people to consider going back to.
