I haven't posted in awhile because I am having problems dealing with lots of issues right now. I went shopping yesterday early and didn't get home till about 2 pm. Just after I got home my dad called me and said they got my uncles car sold for more than blue book value so that will help them to have some money to pay for his funeral, etc. This experience with my uncle and no will should be a lesson for everyone to have a will.
Dad continuted on and said he my other uncle went to restaurant uptown for lunch and that when he was getting up to leave he saw H sitting at a table with some guy. Dad walked over to say a few words to him and realized that it wasn't a guy but instead was skanky ow. Dad said he conversed with him for a few minutes and then left. He said he never offered to introduce them to each other. He also said that ow would make a better looking man than she does a woman. I had told dad that she was not attractive but I guess he had to see it for himself to really believe it. I bet H couldn't eat his lunch fast enough to get out of there. He and my dad were very close and he is terrified of having to face my dad after what he has done.
I guess H will be home for 2 weeks now which means 2 weeks with no pay. I am not covering for him on the home equity again this month. If his money is not there, I will simply call my attorney and let him handle it for me.
I guess what I am saying is that I am done with this whole business. I feel that after we get the house deal settled that I will just move right on and get him out of my life completely. I think that is what is best for me. There is no hope of anything ever coming from my waiting and caring except for me to get more hurt.
I'm glad you posted so we can know you are okay. YOu do sound down, but you've had a really rough 6 months.
You sound resolved about letting H sink or swim as far as the loan payment goes. That seems really healthy to me, he is not a child and he can't expect you to be responsible for him when he has ducked out of the M. I'm really proud of you.
As to the rest, I only know to take it one day at a time, and not feel rushed as to any decision. You have lots of support here no matter what you decide you need to do.
Please give Snooky a hug from me and be extra good to yourself. This is a tough time of year for many, including those of us dealing with wandering alien spouses.
How was your Christmas? Did Snooky get some nice treats in her stocking? Please post so we'll know you're okay. I wish you a much better new year, with more fun and less worry.
