How r u doing these days? I have read some of your posts and new you were in the state somewhere. Yeah, it's been great with the balmy weather. My roses are still blooming which is so cool.
As for vacation with XH. Well, I did that four months post bomb and it was horrible. It was weird and I was a basket case the whole time. I couldn't relax and was paranoid he was on the phone with the Rat the whole time..(which he was) I hate to say it, but most of my friends who went on vacation post separation had a horrible time. Just my thought although I know it would be great for you to have the help with the kids and get out of dodge for a while.
Yeah, these guys are nuts so you are gettin it. I feel as though the more distance we keep during this MLC time the better. I know that may not give the opportunity to "validate" and listen, but there are certain things I don't agree with with DBing. My philosophy is this. If someone is treating you poorly keep your distance. When they start treating you with respect, then take the time to validate, listen, etc. The minute I shut crazy XH out, he went nuts. He was all over the map. The more attention I paid to him post bomb, the cockier he got. Just my thoughts but you do sound like you are one strong cookie..
