MLC over??

[wed2alien]

Hello to all,

I thought I would start the new year by updating my thread. Maybe I should be in piecing but MLC forum just feels like home. And I want to give hope to those who need to see that things can work out sometimes. I remember I always looked for threads that described what exiting the tunnel was like and what life was like on the other side, reconciled.

H is continuing to progress since he has been home (4 months now), all OW contact over for 6 months, and when they say you will know when OW is gone, it is so true.

I feel like I should change my username because he is not an alien anymore. He is again gentle, kind, more sensitive, so much like the man I married. It is really so different this time, his head is so clear, rational and focused. I rarely feel it could change back again,(though I have learned to never say never!), those fears slowly are going away by his steady behavior.

There have not been a lot of words said, I don't feel the need to bring up R talk, as his actions are speaking louder than words. He continues to surprise me with signs of his recommittment.

Last week we were out to dinner and he said he thought we should have a "ring" ceremony. He had found his wedding band that I had in my jewelry dish, (I didn't even know he knew I had it. I had taken it from his car ashtray 2 yrs ago when he stopped wearing it.) He said he couldn't find my band but thought we should start wearing our wedding bands again!! I was shocked, I hadn't thought he was ready for that, we both had tears in our eyes. So actions are better than words I guess. I guess he is getting "feelings" back again!!

And we spent New Years Eve together with a nice dinner out. He joked about how many people never thought we would be together for a new year. And 1 yr ago, I was one of them. (he spent last NYE with me but was distant, cold, no touch, went to bed at 9pm, was grieving he was not with OW like he was the year before-2 yrs ago NYE)

So, keep the faith in 2007, no matter how dismal your M seems in January. My situation changed a lot in 1 year. It's not over til its over. Hang on but move forward too, how confusing is that!!

wed2