MLC over??

[wed2alien]

iluv2teach,

Yes, my H had OW. She was my so called "friend", mother of our daughter's best friend, lived on same street, same church, school, friends, 10 yrs younger, etc.

It was so public and humiliating. She was SOOOO not his type and he was the last man I thought would ever cheat, he hated men that did that to their wives. How ironic.

I discovered the affair 1-2 months after it started and made sure everyone knew. The shunning he received from friends, family was an eye opener. He thought everyone would rejoice that they found happiness! That is how out of touch he was.

Like you, I knew my "real" H was in there somewhere and that is what I was fighting for. I knew in his right mind, he would have never chosen that path. If he had acted like his normal self with OW, maybe I would have not fought the battle. I interfered with his affair as much as I could, and he would get mad, I would back off and he'd come around again.

Honestly, I think he enjoyed the attention of both of us "wanting" him, it really fed his ego and low self esteem. He needed to see that I loved and cared enough to fight for him since he felt I "neglected" him over the years.

The affair was hot and heavy for only 4-6 months and then he waivered on the fence for another 1.5 yrs, moved back home several times for a few months each time, swearing it was over, but when I discovered contact, I made him move out again and cut off contact as much as I could. He always came back around.

wed2