David,

Thanks for the wise advice. I think everything you said is true, especially going from bombs to bullets.

That is why I need to come here from time to time, to get the perspective back to keep my armor strong.

The reverse process must be how it happens. My H has said several times that I expect him to jump from from A to Z (meaning from OW to me) without going through the other letters. I guess that is why the process is so long. I guess we are at the letter K!! Still a long way to go.

I think it is a testament to your standing and how you have interacted with your XW that she still calls and confides in you. That connection must still be there for her, however buried it is. Your patience is an example for us all.

Keep hanging in there and I will too. I can feel my PMA coming back from just posting and reading here for a few days!!

wed2

wed2alien

Both 49, M 23 years
3 teens
April 2004- bomb, moved out
April 2006-Ended with OW for the LAST time
May 2006- He wants to work on the marriage!!
Nov 2006-- Moved home
May 2008- Things still getting better