MLC over??

[DavidA]

Hi Wed2,

I'm probably 6 months behind you but have been giving alot of thought to how to handle the situation and emotions when waxw returns. I envision it as a reverse process of all the scenarios of the past. Growing back together again will not happen by magic or over night. I fear we are in for many emotional abuses yet to come as the mlc'er re-grows up ( if they were ever grown up to begin with ) and begins to understand all the important factors of making themselves happy first and then understanding what it will take to make us happy and secure in our relationships with them.

My waxw has seen a divorce lawyer to divorce the om and has slipped back into depression but is still communicating with me. She likes to use music to describe her feelings for people. 2 nights ago she called me crying, whispering from the ladies room in a sports bar to tell me about her visit with the lawyer. Wanted me to listen to 2 songs. One, her feelings about the om ( Addicted / Kelley Clarkson ) and one for me ( My Wish, Rascal Flatts ).

Addictions are very powerful wether they be emotional or chemical are not easily defeated or ever completly goten rid of. The majority of humans, including myself, can't shake an addiction alone. We all need help and we all need to understand what goes through the addicts mind and that it's not always vindictive behavior directly pointed at us but the addiction controling their lives.

The short definition: If you care be patient and put on your armor. The bombs may have stoped but the bullets will keep flying for a while. My 2 cents worth.

Thought for the week: Don't be a turkey, eat one instead ! TPPPL, DaveA