MLC over??

[wed2alien]

Thanks to all of you all that posted. I remember all of you and will get to your threads as I can. I don't seem to have the time I used too, H is very needy and takes up a lot of my time (a good thing I guess!!)

I think that may be why some find it hard to post once the MLCer comes home. Plus the fact that we are SOOOO ready for it all to be over, that it is nice to not think about MLC for a while. Like our brain has no energy for it for a while.

I now know that I still need this board because things aren't smooth or all lovey dovey yet. That part still bothers me, I hear some H come home and are touchy feely, loving, saying ILY, and trying so hard to reassure the LBS of their love and committment.

My MLCer is not like that, prefers not to talk about it except at certain times and then he is open. It comes in bits and pieces like they say. We have ML but no kissing or passion, so in a way, I still feel unloved, undesirable, like he came home not because he chose me, but just because I was still here and available!!

If this is like all the other stages, it will be SLOW improvement, the kind you can only see when you look back 6 months at time.

So keeping a PMA is as important as ever. I may read DB/DR again. I guess I thought H would be the one who would want to work on rebuilding marriage by reading books, seminars or just talking about our needs!! It just shows all MLCers are different and all go through it in their own way.

wed2alien