Not sure if I am officially piecing yet....

[Sherman333]

I went to the college and took my assesment test and will start 2 classes in January.

This is awesome news!

I'm so happy that you're doing something for you. If your H gets mad about this it's his problem and not yours.

[want2bmarried]

OMG. I don't know why I am shocked at this. It fits the pattern.

Haven't talked with him for a few days. He sends me a text. i am putting something in your mailbox. let me know when you get it. turns out its more papers for the divorce. Income and expense. Ok, this is the same guy who I loved you, want you, stopped the D, then flipped. I knew he had these papers about a month ago but I guess has been sitting on them.

I haven't responded to him that I recieved them. It all makes me sick. He is such a user. I wish I was strong enough to tell him I actually WANT this D. What a jerk.

[keepingthefaithbb7]

want2bmarried,

I think it is great that you are taking some classes. THis is a wonderful way to meet new people and boost your self-esteem. It is a good sign that H gets upset with you GAL. It means he still cares or it wouldn't even bother him.

KTF7

[want2bmarried]

Long night. I didn't sleep well. I have no idea why I get so let down when WAH does these things. I can see it and know its coming. Its my own fault for letting him get back with me with no commitment. I have never dealt with anyone that is so downright cruel before in my life.

I got a call from my 1st ex H (my kids father). We are good friends and he has been very supportive thru this whole mess with WAH. He told me that our oldest (17) has told him about WAH coming and going, making promises to me and the kids, showing up drunk, and then bailing. I guess its really getting to her. Anyway, he said he didn't want that around the kids anymore. I don't blame him. WAH is not just messing with me, he is dragging the kids down too. my 1st ex said he told our kids that if WAH calls or contacts them, they are to say their dad does not want them talking because of the way WAH has treated me and them. I can't argue, its true. I have tried to tell WAH not to mess with my kids, but he knows they are a good ego boost and he can get info from them.

Should I move my post? I am not piecing anymore, I am trying to survive.

[want2bmarried]

WAH now is in some big hurry for me to sign and fill out these Income/Expense papers. He has been sitting on them for a month, delivers them to me in my mailbox last night and wants them back today!!! Hardly. I called my Attorney and he said, no hurry on them, in fact I need to fill them out carefully. We still have 4 months until D is final. What is the big hurry? He is so psycho. I never responded to the text asking for them today. He mentioned that we would have to pay to have them redone if we didn't do it today. He is lying. There are no more fees due. He just sent another...did you get my message? I have NOTHING to say to him. He can wait on me. He can't just expect me to fill these out in one day after he has had them for a month.

[want2bmarried]

Vent:

I called and confirmed that I have months before those papers are due. He sent me another text saying that if I don't turn them in, we will have a court date. He gave me less than 24 hours!! I talked with his doc service directly and they said that is totally untrue. He also told them I was refusing to sign them. Another lie. I have no problem signing them, just not in a hurry. Its 5 or 6 pages of information and paperwork I have to copy. They said we have till March. Right now, I am angry and mad and have nothing to say. Let him squirm. He probably won't worry that I am moving on, but at least what my next move will be. Sorry bud, this D is mine as well and life is not always on your terms.

[MissH]

I know how you feel. Read my post I just wrote. I think you and me need to get a little control over our sitch. We can't let our H walk all over us.

[want2bmarried]

Just woke up and was rather sad. I have been doing my best to keep busy the past few days and GAL without H. I have ignored his texts and one call. I shouldn't be excited, it was only to demand that I sign those papers. He doesn't give a crap about me. Why am I so sad today? Why can't I get it thru my head that this will never change, and it certainly won't change with me being his doormat. Why can't I feel better to know that I don't deserve this treatment from him and should be kicking him to the curb? None of us deserve what our WAS/MLCrs are putting us thru. I sit here and hope and pray that H will call or text. Show me some sign that he cares. Although my plan is to ignore it, it still makes me feel good when he does it. Sick feelings. I am so tired of hurting.

[keepingthefaithbb7]

want2bmarried,

I hear ya! I am sick of feeling sad and hurt , I have been feeling this way for way too long. H doesn't care about me anymore and I have to face it. H just called this morning all cheerful asking d to call him about dinner today at his mom's. My stomach feels sick

It hurts that I am not included in holidays anymore at MIL's house and that it doesn't even cross his mind that this may hurt me OR maybe he does know it hurts me and that's why he makes sure he meantions it so he can rub it in my face that I am not invited anymore!! Today I feel like giving up H doesn't care about me anymore, he has completely detached and has moved on. I need to do this so I can no longer be hurt by his actions and words.


KTF7

[brandnewday]

STOP THESE THOUGHTS!!!!
GO AND REREAD THE MLC RESOURCES STUFF
STOP FOCUSING ON WHAT HE IS DOING AND WHAT YOU THINK HE IS THINKING
THIS IS HIS CRISIS NOT YOURS