My C told me that the reason I am having such a hard time letting go of H is b/c he is so controlling. I was H's doormat and had to have most everything his way. I never saw myself as a doormat in my R with H until the C pointed it out to me. She said that this is why I can't let go. I am so used to having H there to make all the decisions.
I remember my d7 asking when her daddy was coming back home. It broke my heart. Whenever d would ask H the same question he would say to her that he wasn't ready yet. H didn't know what to say to here He let her think for a long time that he would be back b/c he didn't have the heart to tell her the truth. D doesn't ask anymore It is a shame that the WAS can't put their kids first and think about what is best for them instead of going all crazy and turn into a selfish b*stard! My parents divorced when I was younger and it really does affect a person for the rest of their lives. It's too bad that our H's can't see this. Right now they only see themselves.
