It is obvious that your H is confused. You need to detach from his confusion until he can make a decision. Otherwise I think you are just going to continue to feel the pain. Next time he wants to hook up tell him no thanks and you can't do it anymore. mrs is right about having respect for yourself. H and I were still having sex after he left, but I started to feel used and cheap after awhile. I told him I deserved better. It made H feel bad when I said this, but he knew I was right. Since that night we have not been intimate. I miss him like crazy , but I also know that I felt so disrespected when H was cake eating! You need to do what you feel is right for you. It would be different if your H wanted to reconcile and you were having sex, but b/c he says one thing and then changes him mind. He is definitely confused and it would do him good to feel what it is like not to have you. Maybe this would be a wake up call for him! Unfornately it wasn't for my H, but he had Ow ( didnt know it at the time) This is why he didn't miss being with me anymore.
