I thought we discussed this already. Why are you having sex with him? Sex is fine, as long as you are also content with meaningless sex with him with no strings attached.
Why does he do this? Because he isn't committed to you, he just doesn't want anyone else to have you. He won't pull as far away this time because you almost got off the hook, but he won't commit either. He wants a booty call from someone that is entirely wrapped around his finger. I bet his friends and him have a good chuckle about the arrangement he has with you.
You've accepted this as your life. You take his crumbs and never force him to give you more. Know why? Because you are desperate for him, afraid of losing him, and he knows it. One or two words about how you might be seeing someone else or that he think you are moving on and you are quick to point out that there is no one else and you won't move on.
He WILL NEVER be the man you want and need as long as you are an enabler. You allow this to happen. Until you can actually stand on your own two feet, demand sex-free commitment from him, and show that you don't need him to have a decent life, he will use you for his doormat.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
