If you don't, then my thought is that he is "testing" you to see how you will react. If negative, then you are validating him & his thoughts about your R/M. If you remain calm/neutral then you have defused him & that is what if making him panic & flippy floppy. Your DBing is having a affect on him.
Like you, I too will wait it out for the light at the end of the tunnel & I understand your pain. I too am having the same fear & issue of handling my fear. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
Remember, WE have to put ALL of our emotions, feeling, & questions on hold while in Limbo Land. This is our test of strength. It is NOT fair, but we have to in order to keep the baby steps going & the positives.
Sending you a big Hug!!!
Keep posting & journaling here as often as you need to.
MariS
"Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize"
Become the change you want to see.....
Me - 37 WAH - 35 child - 2yrs Separated - August '06 Married - 10yrs, Together 18 Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08
