My H is the definition of flip flopping. I post on the MCL board. My H left to have an A last Feb. Came back in March. 1 week later, back to OW. 2 months later back to me. For the past 6 months, he's been saying he wants me and our M, but every few weeks he goes back to OW for a day or two. Then comes back professing his love for me saying that he's sure this is what he wants. This is STILL going on for me.
At thsi point, H has said he wants to come home. This time I'm not letting him until/unless I see drastic changes. It is so hard, but I know I have to do it.
We cannot control their actions. All we can control is our reactin to their actions. So, now is the time to take control and tell him you don't want to be part of his mess anymore.
