I don't accept his kids or like his exwife (I do, but thats another story) He hates that I look single That I don't seem to be miserable He doesn't know me and who I am anymore, I am not his old wife. I am not making the changes he needs. ( tried to get clarification on that, but he couldn't tell me. How do you work on a marriage with distance) He was getting angrier and angrier last night that I seemed so calm about all of this. That I seemed to enjoy it. Thats not true. I just wasn't having an emotional breakdown and begging. More of an attitude that I could take this or leave it at this point.
I think this pretty much tells the story. In my opinion your H is trying to eat cake, he will string you along as long as you let him. He doesn’t to see any signs that you might be able to move on without him and he wants to keep you firmly on the hook. I think you have a good chance to make a difference if you can apply DB wholeheartedly. If you cave in and keep talking R every time H shows the slightest interest I believe this flip flop pattern will continue. H will run every time he feels secure.
I wish you the best of luck, you seem to be figuring out how this works and I think you are heading in the right direction. I just want to let you know that DB works and if you believe in yourself and work on your self image with all your heart and soul, you will find that you have it in you to make the right choices, and that my friend is a success story regardless if your M is saved or not.
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"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"
