Thank you. It was a long hard ride, I'll tell you. I think they dont' really know what they want? Or maybe they are worried that things won't work out with the Ow, so they keep the ole' wife hanging by a little thread. I'm not sure. I think every situation is different. Mine definitely was 'double dipping' I think maybe they want the familiar and comfortable, and then also the new and exciting? I do have a little thread here on piecing, about a situation we went through last week or so. I did get alot of advice on things I am doing wrong and how I might be able to improve. It is called Suggestions for Improvement.

My guy did all the things you mentioned pretty much, and despite that, I knew that inside there, there was once the most incredible person, who I have been forever madly in love with. I had to make the decision though, because that person was no longer the one present. It was the hardest thing to make that break. He could definitely tell when I was serious, and it didn't work until I was serious about it to myself.
Take care, I know the pain you are suffering