Thank bellis, and LSL for your kind words

bellis, I'm so happy for you that your W has decided to work on it all. Now, I believe your job (like mine) is to be as totally supportive of her as you can, as empithetic of her confusion with her choices as possible, and selflessly honest with yourself about your contribution to the problems in your marriage. Then, work together to bring things around and rebuild.

I've been reading things on the Marriage Builder's sight lately, partly at the suggestion of our C. I believe that Marriage Builders offers some terrific insight about why things went awry and how to get thing back on track in the marriage once the divorce is "busted", while this sight offers tremendous support for the left spouse to build and maintain the respolve to "bust" the divorce in the first place. Anyway, on that sight, I'm working through the sections on infidelity, and trying to come to terms on the sections on trust and honesty. I hope to get W into this too, with the help of the C.

I got some nice R related Christmas gifts from W. First, you might have noted that W has had a divorce lawyer on retainer since Sept 2001. Well, she has released the lawyer and presented me with a check for the refunded retainer. I immediately gave it back saying that it is her money, and I hope she spends in on something to celebrate and build her life. She also started to break down the barriers to physical intimacy, (Nod, nod, wink, wink) If you catch my drift... (Merry Christmas to me) I had a big smile on when we went down stairs for Christmas morning!!!

It's still a long road, and I am still working on it and I still don't know how it will all end up. Things are going very, very well though.

Happy New Year.

z