Zebra, Hope all is well and you are ready to start a new beginning in 2003 with you wife. How is the FIL sitch going? You are a very wise man and a generaous one to give of yourself to others on this BB and in life. I miss your insight and you are in my prayers. I checked in on Rachel's thread and I think she has really "got it" this time and abandoned her old ways that did not work! You have demonstrated that perseverance that will see you through! Happy New Year! Happy New Life! Faith. Hope. Love. LSL