It's time to start dating again....

[Jamesjohn]

So, by taking more notice of what works in "safe" areas of the R, and in other more social R's I have, I can notice how to apply the techniques I already use to my marital R. Is that the gist of what you mean?

Pretty much, Z. Kinda along the lines of "practice makes perfect"!

Gives you good practice on talking about what may be some uncomfortable, revealing stuff for you, and gives her good practice on listening without fixing. Some things that I think that ALL of us could better learn to do.