Well, here's an update: My lawyer countered my H's lawyer, and now, my H's lawyer has countered (again).
When I first went to see my lawyer, I told him that I didn't think it was fair that my H was going to get 50% of my retirement and 401K since he's the one who left and never considered reconciliation. He agreed, so he sent my H's lawyer a questionnaire that my H has to answer and sign under oath. One of the questions is "Have you ever had any kind of sexual relations with someone other than your spouse in the course of your marriage?" My lawyer said that if it turns out my H had an affair or is having an affair, then chances are, my lawyer can fight so that my H only receives a portion of my earnings. Texas is a no-fault and community property state. I was surprised to hear that I could petition to question my H's fidelity.
In doing that, my H's lawyer countered and is asking the same information from me. BUT, he also is requesting that I provide spousal support, and he's also asking that I submit my college transcripts .
I was shocked at my husband's request! The only reason I requested that he answer the infidelity questions under oath is because he has never admitted to having someone else. He left and never looked back. In the meantime, I was still helping him out with some financial situations, such as paying his car insurance and medical insurance. Call me stupid but I really thought we were going to work through this.
I still would love it if my H came to his senses, and I pray that someday, he will.
I'm keeping you in my prayers and hope that your wife will realize what a good man you are. I'm also rooting for your friend who has been corresponding with you on these boards. I can't remember his nic as I type this .
All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07
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