I_Wanna_Make_It_Work said: "I know from your posts there are a ton of issues that caused you to even question if you wanted to try to save it. I didn't have these thoughts yet. I was in LRT right through to Tuesday - and now there seems to be a breakthrough."
Does that mean you are looking at your WAW and M with new, perhaps more objective, eyes? For me, I didn't see the change coming...it just seemed to kind of happen one day. I suddenly started thinking, "What would happen if she came back right now?" and I realized I wouldn't want her back.
I may have emotionally neglected my WAW, but I was never mean, cruel, or hostile. She wanted for nothing (at least materially) and I did more than my half of the household chores. I was financially responsible, faithful and totally devoted to our M, sexually unselfish, thoughtful, caring, and even left the toilet seat down.
I realized that I wanted that in return. That I wanted...and deserved...a wife that loved me unconditionally as I did her, that was as committed to our M as I was, that would be faithful to me as I was to her, and that was willing to do the "heavy lifting" rather than taking the easy way out or looking to me to solve her problems.
When I came to realize this, it changed everything for me. Don't get me wrong, I hope and pray that my WAW is able to be that person again and I hope and pray that in two years I'll be posting here on how wonderful it is to have my W back. But I'm no longer willing to get my W back at *any* cost. And that's the difference.
