I don't know your situation but I got served in February. I know how hard it is. But don't lose complete hope. My D is supposed to go to trial on January 25. I will still not completely close the door until H marries someone else. Something is telling me that it is not over. H has an OW but I know that she is just a bandaid. In fact, my new nickname for her is "Curad." She was a close friend of ours and not in the picture when H filed. H made a move toward me and I am sad to say I completely overreacted which pushed him away. Shortly after, he began dating this so-called friend. She and her XH were friends of ours and OW's H filed in March and their D was final in September. OW glued herself to my H in July because she is desparate not to be alone and I believe she is going through her own MLC. I am willing to go on with my life as if H will not be in it but be willing to work on our R if the opportunity presents itself.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is hard but it really does get better.

Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.