The fat lady is warming up....

[I_Wanna_Make_It_Work]

OF - I agree with ILUV and your own opinion. I think you MUST call, acknowledge the gift, validate, and then get off the phone and leave her wanting more. I know from your posts there are a ton of issues that caused you to even question if you wanted to try to save it. I didn't have these thoughts yet. I was in LRT right through to Tuesday - and now there seems to be a breakthrough. You have to leave the door open a little bit and make it a "safe place" for the W to return. Though you had previous doubts, I'm sure you really want to save the M. You, of all people, who have given me some great guidance, know that you can address the other stuff that lead up to the breakup at some other point - if she wants to return to the M. You owe it to yourself, your W and your M to crack open the door and see if she'll come in.

DR notes that the LRT "wont cure the fundamental problems" in a marriage. "It's simply a method of putting a halt to a dynamic." You are there. Now do something.