I was wondering what was happening to you. I'll give you a full reponse later. Right now I've got my own little crisis.
My WAW left a small gift and card on my porch and a voice mail ending with, "Call me if you want". We haven't been communicating (outside the occasional e-mail) outside of joint counseling for nearly a couple months now. She's hinted at wanting more communication...but I've been so into the LRT, I've resisted (not sure what it would accomplish, fear of saying something wrong, backsliding, etc.).
As noted above, she may be starting to really realize what she's done to me (see the "really bad decisions" comment in a prior post). In turn, she may be projecting onto me what she would be feeling if the roles were reversed and wondering if I'm just done with her...forever. She's also said Christmas has been hard on her (and she reiterated that in the card).
I don't want to get into anything, but with the gift and another invitation to talk, I'm afraid if I don't call her, she may believe that I won't have anything to do with her anymore (which is, of course, not the case).
So I'm considering my options. I think they are as follows:
1. Ignore the whole thing. 2. Send a card later with a basic thank you. 3. Call her and try to DB. Validate her sadness, thank her for the gift, try to get the &#^&*# off the phone as soon as possible without being abrupt.
I think I've got to do the latter...but I can't say as I want to. So I either need advice (that I should do something else) or encouragement to do what I think I have to but don't want to do.
