The fat lady is warming up....

[alamogirl]

Hi oldfool, I guess one of the reasons I like "talking" to you is because you're in the exact same boat as I am. I've gotten advice from other people, and terrific as it may be, most posters are way too advanced for me. Also, you write in English where most people use acronyms...ha!

My next "individual" counseling is next month. I guess I'll wait until them to ask if I should continue joint counseling. Actually, my H only agreed to attend joint counseling to give me closure...how considerate of him. I remember reading about choosing therapists in Michele's book. How do you know which therapist is all about piecing your marriage back together? I chose this counselor based on prior experience with him. When my stepson was living with us, we all attended family counseling with the therapist H and I are seeing. Even though he did say that he wasn't much of a "couple" counselor, he is an excellent family counselor. Maybe I goofed, I don't know.

I also noticed that lots of posters have been reading this thread, so I figured people would jump right in. I guess I'm not asking for guidance right now. I'm just finding a comfortable place to be .

I do pray to G-d and ask for strength each day. I also pray that G-d will heal our marriage. I'm not Catholic, but I found myself sending a prayer request to Father Peter Rookey. He's a Catholic priest who is a faithful (and powerful) servant of G-d. He lays hands and BAM, you're on the floor. I've been to him before for prayer. Of course, he gives all credit to G-d. After my H said he was ready to file D papers, I sent Fr. Rookey a prayer request. He's probably getting tired of my requests. I think this is the 3rd one , but I did send a donation.

I like to hear encouraging stories such as the one you told. It gives me hope. One of my good friends recently reconciled with her H. They got separated Sep 05. Last month after 1 year of being separated, they decided to get back together. He's in the military stationed at Patrick. She leaves right after finals...I think 6 Dec. I will miss her, but I'm very happy for her.

Ok, my friend, I've got to get back to work.

alamogirl