Quote: She did her best to assure me that she's back, and she's working on us, and on her issues with intimacy with us. She even went so far as to say that despite the lack of physical intimacy, she also wants it, but has issues and barriers. (didn't get into that, but it's at least out there....) She said she is working and wants to work on those issues. ... So, I now have "permission" to more openly express those needs, and to ask more questions, and to ask for re-assurance.
In a way which could cover a lot of the ground above with minimun pressure to her might be to ask her if there is a physical sign of affection (ie., a hug, a peck on the cheek, a squeeze of your hand, ...) she would be comfortable in giving you from time to time to continue to assure you that she is still working on "us".
This might help her overcome that first hurdle towards intimacy between you and is a very effective way to give you the assurances you are looking for.
