Thanks for stopping by my thread, I tried to reply but I am over 100 posts and it is locked. I have copied my reply below and will start a new thread.
Z Thanks for your thoughtful repsonse. I have read and re-read it and I know it will take time for me to sort out what I do from this point but I am so confused.
Quoting Zebra: Just be sure that whatever you do next, you do not disrespect her. She is telling you these are her needs. Respect those needs. Of course, that doesn't mean to disrespect your own, but it means don't argue. It means tell her what you need, and at least, I suspect you need time to consider this all........Just don't disrespect her needs, her pain. But don't disrespect you own either. You have time, you may take it. z
Are her needs that she must be divorced? Or to date? Or to have me out of her life? Or is it that she needs more time to sort things out? She made it sound pretty clear that she does not love me and does not plan to love me. She stated we may be friends down the road but not in love "you had your once chance with this relationship and it did not work." I respect her pain, I can see it and feel it for her. I have so much compassion for her I wish I could lift her up and sweep her off her feet again to make her life more full than she can imagine. I must admit I don't know why I was never given a chance. The victim part of me says get pissed, get even and go back to MD to put your family together you have given and given and she is too cold and incapable of seeing or loving that in you. My heart says you love her give her time and be there for her she will see you for what you are and the enduring love you have. Sorry if I ramble or am incoherent, I have so many emotions raging through me now, I need to clear my head and do some deep soul searching. Thanks for you support, Kevin
